What Grandma Knew

Oh, look! A photo of you at three, all dressed up as a wedding attendant. Whose wedding was it? Wasn’t it cousin somebody’s wedding? Who are all the people in photo?

Every family needs an historian. If you are lucky enough to still have your grandparents, when was the last time you went through old photos, listened to family stories, or finally wrote down a family recipe? Can your children name their great grandparents?

Anthropologists believe Grandmothers were traditionally the main transmitters of culture  and history. Grandfathers, if they survived the rigors of hunting and warfare, spent their days out hunting with the rest of the men. Mothers were out gathering food, working the fields, or doing other chores. Grandmas were the ones at home by the fire with the little ones – telling stories, teaching language, songs and religion- the elements of culture.

In a modern family, who teaches the children about their family and culture? Family history gives us a sense of belonging. For many of us, our childhood memories include many family dinners filled with traditional foods, family stories and laughter. How many Grandmas (or Grandpas) can still recite stories their grandparents, great-aunts and uncles told at every opportunity? Have you ever told them to your children and grandchildren? There might not have been things like adt home security systems then, but a close knit family used to look out for each other.

Family stories can give us some much-needed perspective to our lives today. When headlines and newscasters announce the “worst” economy in history, it might help your family to understand how your grandparents survived the Great Depression. You come from strong ancestors who overcame wars, plagues, and famines. We are stronger than we know.

Revisiting Your Family’s Past

Genealogy of Charles V. 

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Many people know less about their heritage and the culture that comes with it than they could. In fact, every heritage has a fascinating amount of cultural mores than one might think about on a regular basis. Just taking a little time to discover that heritage could lead to a lot of interesting ideas, reading, and even adventures.

Having a genealogy done can be very helpful in gathering information on your family’s history. There are many places on the Internet that can teach you more about making your own genealogy, or you can have a professional company find the information for you. This can save you a lot of time and effort, but many people also wish to save the money or simply like to find the information on their own.

If the option is available, you should also ask older relatives what they know about your heritage. Many parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and even distant relatives would be eager to talk with you about how your family came to be who they are. In some cases, your relatives might even have “trophies” from older relatives, such as a diary from a distant relative that left Ireland during the potato famine, or a Knight’s Templar ring from an ancestor from long ago.

Learning about your family and your genealogy can be a great way to learn about the culture your family has behind them. You might even decide to bring some of that culture into your life to show a connection between you and your ancestors.

Protecting Your Cultural Identity

Do you remember learning about the melting pot while in school? The United States is known as a place where different cultures come together, blending into one ideology. In the U.S. everyone is simply known as an American.

Now it’s as if many different cultures are working together but still keeping their own identity. People want to do what they can to still honor their culture and where they came from. It’s a big part of figuring out who you are and who you’re looking to become.

Use the Internet to find as much information about your culture as possible. Talk with your family about the culture and get a good family history from them. Learn about the foods and tradition that define what your culture is all about. Having that knowledge could be a powerful tool in keeping your cultural identity strong.

Try and cook some of the signature meals from your culture. Be committed. Cook a meal at least once a week for your family.

Attend any organization or a festival you can attend to celebrate your culture. There are multiple cultures that have monthly celebrations to honor them by bringing people together to celebrate.

If you’re able to, take a trip to the country your family is for. Visiting the country your family is from is probably the best way to experience your culture first hand. This could be your chance to meet other family members and friends of your family and talk about your family and culture.

There are many different ways you can protect your cultural identity. You shouldn’t hide who you are from people. Embrace and share with everyone who you are. Hiding it won’t do you any good.

Reinforcing Your Culture

Culture is a way of living and it’s how most people survive in life. Not only does our culture reinforce everyone’s belief about behavior, but it also reinforces our assumptions about what is considered acceptable and unacceptable behavior. Culture also brings out moral and social codes when it comes to society, which currently exists in the rules and laws we abide by.

Culture helps the way people act, speak, do their business and even how they view their life. There are different reasons why reinforcing your culture is important when it comes to the behavior of your family.

Many people might not realize this but your culture plays a huge part in the behavior and psychological pattern in a person. Culture is a way to define who we are and why people behave the way they do.

Our Culture defines the main characteristics to important events or even ideas in our lives. For instance, when a culture enforces greed, those in the corporate world will do any “get rich quick” scheme or do whatever is necessary to climb the corporate ladder. Greed is even reinforced by various images of wealth and various messages about what each person could gain from having a huge piece of the pie.

There are so many subcultures within a culture. For example there’s Hispanic-American and African-American. When it comes to reinforcing culture within each of the groups, they’re being taught your literature, music, photos and family structure. For example, for the Hispanic-American subculture, they’ll use images of Latin dancing moving to the sound of salsa or show that in a film.

It’s important to always try to reinforce your culture to your family. Culture plays a huge part in on how people become the way that they are. How your raise your children by reinforcing culture can make a huge impact for how they turn out later down the road.